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How Love Dies In A Relationship

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Love is a heavenly feeling that a human have no control over it and a relationship is just a practice of maintaining feelings like love, care etc with changing time and age. Love is something that comes from your heart and relationship is the ultimate outcome of feelings and commitment, which society measures between each other.

I have a friend who is recently married to his long time girlfriend, but before marriage he was really confused on whether he is doing it right or just taking another wrong decision in a faster way. Very confidently he took few points to put up on, why he is not ready for a marriage. He took few examples of our committed friends who have nothing left to even discuss with their partners as they have already did such enough time.

Simply he said a man should never marry his girlfriend of many years, as they normally started getting bored of each other. Here comes the very common factor of a long term relationship, ‘Boringness’. Rabindranth Tagore nicely said, we start anything with a huge interest and end it with reverse feelings. Especially it hurts, when we are a part of such relationship, getting distracted, creating a lot of mess and unwanted events in our life.

How the boringness enters?

1: DIFFERENT VIEWS AND EXPECTATION:

Love doesn’t guarantee that you and your partner are going to think in a same way. In-fact ‘Opposite attracts’ is a proved factor in a relationship. So difference is not the matter. Before starting a relationship; think once, how much compatible you are with your partner. People normally make a mistake, when they start to expect something measurable from a relationship and a lot from their partners.  May be this is a point of time, when love takes exit from a relationship.

2: LACK OF PERSONAL SPACE / TOO MUCH OF PERSONAL INTERFERENCE:

Personal space is a crucial factor. It’s like refreshment to your mentality, which allows you to bring more engagement. Personal space allows you to be yourself and a gives you enough time to think about your relationship.This space is important but do not make a football ground between each ohter.

3: LACK OF WOW FACTOR IN DAY TO DAY LIFE / ROUTINE LIFE:

We can’t lead our life with a same chicken roll for longer time period. We normally need changes and the wow factor in our daily life, so that your every morning starts with a surprise and the day ends with a smile.

4: PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE TO RELATIONSHIP: 

The background of building a character and human perceptions on life is different. A person always relates, compare things with his/her past experience. Know your partner’s soft corners, previous relations and attachments to detect the loopholes. Handle with care. I have a friend, who used to be very romantic in childhood, lost his faith on love and relationship, when one of his classmates dumped her for no reason. Sometimes I feel it will take a lot effort and time to make him believe in virtual love again.

5: MIS-COMMUNICATION/ TRANSPARENCY:

Sometimes you may think, ‘is this a matter to share with your partner??’ Don’t think and stop fooling yourself, because, if the information got forwarded from other sources, it will be dangerous for your relationship. Transparency at a certain level is required, until you feel your personal space is getting damaged.

6: LACK OF FAITH:

Faith, commitments are the few common words always come when you talk about any relationship. People forget to share. Stop hiding or lying, it damages the roots of every relationship. A proper communication is also required to build up a faithful commitment.

7: SHARING IN A CARING WAY:

Especially for those people who are living in. Only sharing will not work. You have to handle this sharing process in a sophisticated way. Otherwise sharing can taste bitter.

8: POSSESSIVENESS:

You know what it exactly means. If you are too much uncertain about something, you will definitely give it up someday.

9: AGE/ MATURITY:

The meaning of love and relationship changes with age and maturity in general life. For a school going couple it can be sharing lunch and a soft hug, for a college student it turns into some physical affection, few years later it turns into mental support and then comes marriage, family and many more things as per a very normal Indian life. Take care of your mental changes with age. So you can manage with the demands and duties of your life.

10: TAKEN FOR GRANTED ATTITUDE TO RELATIONSHIP:

Practice! Relationship is a practice. You can’t count someone outside in your life just like that. Your partner is actually an outsider in your life and that much feels comfortable exactly what you consider to give freedom. Value the presence of another one in your un-presentable moments. The moment you will take this as a daily routine, the day you will dump your relation.

11: TOPICS TO TALK SOME MORE:

People, who are in a relationship, spend a lot of time to find out topics to talk with. After some formal conversation, normally people get finished with expressions and start hiding behind mobiles, computer screens, Televisions or some any other business. Many a time, in any public places, you can find couples busy on mobile handsets. The tech dependency is also a reason, coz, people are trying to find out their solutions and happiness on easy and instant media.

Take care of these factors and think in a basic way because love is not a rocket science, you just need some more time.

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10 responses to “How Love Dies In A Relationship

  1. santanu chanda September 18, 2013 at 9:52 p09

    good to read

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    • pinaki pratihar September 18, 2013 at 9:52 p09

      Thanks Santanu..

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  2. SHUBHO September 18, 2013 at 9:52 p09

    ARO LEKHA CHAI…ARO LEKHA CHAI…

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  3. Riya September 18, 2013 at 9:52 p09

    Pinaki….Good attempt …but love don’t have time span yaar…

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    • pinaki pratihar September 18, 2013 at 9:52 p09

      Love don’t have, but a relationship has a time span.. This is about Relationship, where Love is vital.

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  4. Vini September 18, 2013 at 9:52 p09

    It is nicely written…. But Love can be regain if both partners are ready to understand each others feelings.

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    • pinaki pratihar September 18, 2013 at 9:52 p09

      Very true Vini, but maximum times they forget the need of such understanding.

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  5. pinaki pratihar September 23, 2013 at 9:52 p09

    100 fb likes!!!!!!!!!!!!wow! just awesome feelings… It seems people care about their relationships.. Don’t know how many of them read this blog to find some similarity with them… I pray for every relations in this world. Be happy! Smile and bring some more happiness from heaven. God Bless!!!

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  6. pinaki pratihar March 18, 2014 at 9:52 p03

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  7. Venkatesh pappu June 5, 2014 at 9:52 p06

    Reblogged this on My technical blog.

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